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It is 6:00 AM where I live. What a revelation reading about this. And here I thought I was the onl person who was lonely and alone. I have always had trouble making friends. I didn't know why but I figured out it was me. To know that there is something wrong with you is disheartening. I thought I would never marry, but I was fortunate to meet the love of my life and we married and had two sons. Unfortunately he recently passed away and shortly after that happened I had to go through a complete hip replacement. Living in our house is quiet and lonely. Even using up the last tube of his favorite toothpaste causes me to cry. I have started therapy. Only two sessions so far so don't know if it will help or not. What would have been our 60th anniversary is coming up. I do not look forward to that day. I stay at home most of the time because of COVID and also because I just cannot face interacting with people. My therapist is a very nice person. I hope I am not expecting too much from her. In addition I am already an octogenarian so I don't know how much time I have left. I am in relatively good health except for the hip, so who knows. But this is not living - it is just existing. I do check in here from time to time because I enjoy "meeting" all of you on the internet.
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You sound so ... young!! You must be young at heart, and I can relate to every emotional part of your post.
If it can be in any way encouraging, I find a similar soul in your tone and hopes. I am in my first "Medicare Year", so that tells you how old/young I am.
But for now, I just wanted to endorse your feelings, share my condolences, and yet be so glad that you found the "love of your life" at so young an age...I just finally met mine 8-1/2 years ago, and we are feeling so fortunate to have met, and to be together at this later phase of our lives (he is 9 years older, so our time is likely limited too)...
It is also so hopeful that you have a therapist that already seems to be a bright spot in your life - as that isn't always easy, if ever possible.
I look forward to your next post, maybe after another hopeful, helpful visit with your therapist. Good for you for going, and for being you. . . somehow I feel you're going to be able to share your warmth eventually with others, who will appreciate your wisdom.
Warm wishes.
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@thisismarilynb I am glad you found this group discussion.
Any big changes such as the ones you have gone through, can leave a person reeling. Very glad to hear you have started seeing a therapist. Remember, it is not an instant fix, and you may find it takes a while to understand more about yourself and what you want to do. But you have made a step in the right direction, definitely!
We [and I include myself here!] often get so accustomed to living a certain way, day to day, that it takes a real looking back to see that we aren't as happy as we would like to be, lonelier than we want to be, and scared of how to make changes out of what has become our comfort zone. I know, I've been there. It starts with very little steps, to make changes. Being here on Mayo Clinic Connect is great. Have you thought about getting out to an in-person event, perhaps a book reading, or a get-together with others who have a common interest? Something connected with your faith community? What I found is if there is a focus on an event, or doings, I feel less pressure because everyone is also focused on that evebt. Hope that makes sense?
What type of thing would you like to consider doing, to make that little step?
Ginger