@mandm4evers Oh, goodness, no need to apologize! You are facing something new to you, so getting accurate information you can refer to is important. Ask away! We are only a keyboard removed from a face-to-face. Pull up a cup of tea or coffee and settle in whenever you need to!

Oooh, I can really relate to the "no control" side of things, you're preaching to the choir here! What we can control is our response to everything. Deep breaths, information from recognized sources, having a support system that works for you, and maintaining a lifestyle that helps you thrive are all important.

To tag onto your kidney cancer, last year they thought I had a renal cell carcinoma and have been doing the watch-and-wait thing, especially given the other health factors. This last month it was determined that it is a complex cyst, not a tumor. So, that is one thing off the table for now, but I still keep it all tucked in a corner of my mind. So, in your case, they removed the tumor and were able to keep the rest of your kidney? Awesome!
Ginger