Scott, Thanks for your comments too. Yes, I have found that just agreeing with Jenny seems to help most of the time, but sometimes that isn't enough when she wants to get dressed and have the car keys! When she says she's getting out of here and sits on the side of the bed, trying to stand up, I just stand there and watch until she tires out and agrees to let me help her get her legs up. Yesterday she was trying to pound on the tab that releases the arm of the wheelchair and she was really angry that I wouldn't help her.

You are correct that it's the disease that's talking, not the person I love and have shared so many years with. I have to remember how she hates not having control over much of anything.

She is in our "snowbird home", often not knowing where we are and wanting to go "home", but she doesn't exactly know which home she is talking about. We moved on Nov. 30, hardly got settled in, then spent most of January and 2 weeks of Feb. in the hospital. Then she came directly from the hospital to the airport to fly down here, not having seen the new home again.
Our closest friends have gone back north and we're experiencing our first Arizona summer. Many less close friends are helping out though, so we're surviving. This too shall pass.....