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I can relate to meltdown!
The other day I lost it when Will wanted a window closed. He is always cold and I am very warm. I like fresh air (although polluted) in the house coming in from open doors and windows. I am overloaded with all the responsibilities now being on me, his health issues (heart) and trying to find out where we should be and file for Medicaid.
After my meltdown, Will cried because I was so upset and I don’t want him to get upset and cry! It’s the last thing I want him to do! I don’t want to meltdown in front of him again, so venting here I believe would help. He told me that it was OK to leave the window open just a little instead of closed all the way. He can be sweet and considerate and he doesn’t want me to get upset either. I feel so bad because I made him cry!
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80 degrees! But last night he said I could turn on the air to get it to 75. Bless his heart! So with the fan I could sleep. I offered another blanket for him but no, he was ok. He had a quilt and a blanket. He does sleep a lot. It’s ok.
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Hello, @janet7 Your compassion and empathy are so heartwarming to read about!
In my experiences, I found meltdowns unavoidable and yet, I too, wanted desperately to hide them because I knew when I showed my caregiving stress, it made my wife feel bad, which made me spiral even worse.
While not for everyone, I took to keeping an old pillow on our sofa in the far room. When I was overwhelmed or needed a good cry, I used that pillow to muffle my crying and, at times, as a punching bag! That worked great until one night when I was really exhausted and on a last nerve, began to pummel my pillow, and it tore -- leaving me with a terrible mess of feathers all across the room --- which then added to my never-ending list of things to do! By the time I had the feathers almost all picked up I was laughing at myself! Every so often I still find a stray feather in that room!
Strength, Courage, & Peace