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Severe depression. Complete sadness and withdrawal from things I used to like.
Mental Health | Last Active: Feb 12, 2012 | Replies (6)Comment receiving replies
I am living with an alcoholic. Personally, I dont believe one can be borderline alcoholic. its almost like saying a little bit pregnant. There are so many kinds or styles of alcoholism, you 'should' go to an Alenon Meeting to learn how to live with, or deal with this disease. Before getting married.
Not all Alenon Meetings are suited to everyone. I went to TWO before finding a wonderful group of people here by me locally. So, dont fret or give up if the first one doesnt suite you.
Also, Alenon produces several books to help you get through each day with a healthy state of mind. When you go, you might buy one and find support by reading them.
Only he can decide whether to go to AA. You cant FIX him. Its not your job to. But, you have to realise his behaviour is def going to effect your baby boy.
I would def postpone your wedding for a year or so, until you realise that, if he is an alcoholic, the alcohol will always come before you and your son. Until he chooses to get clean.
You are NOT ALONE!!! Get your butt to Alenon asap!!! God Bless Sweetie.
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I was once married to an alcoholic. I thought that when we married things would change for the better. Things got worse the relationship turned abusive. I left the marriage while my kids were young. Although it hurts to watch someone you love have this disease you should not stay in the relationship. Separate and allow yourself the freedom to have your breathing room. I tried Al Anon it was not for me. i went to a therapist and worked thru my issues and also placed my children with a child psychologist. I have been divorced now for 8 years and my ex is still a raging alcoholic who is not in the picture. I am remarried now to a wonderful man. You and your childrens well being and safety are much more important than trying to help your alcholic partner. You can be supportive but live in separate households while your partner decides what theywant to do.