In our state, we have a MOLST form that tells providers whether my mother, who is in assisted living, wants resuscitation, artificial nutrition, artificial ventilation or even transport to hospital. (I may be missing something else on the form, that is what I remember.) It is bright pink and is posted in her room and a copy is on her desk. She has dementia so I have an invoked proxy and make decisions for her.

She was briefly on hospice and they recommended having the maximum limits on what anyone could to to prolong her life. Because I could then reduce those limitations, but it would be harder to add them in and, for instance, ventilator could be initiated before I could stop it. With the MOLST, the facility always has to call me when they want to send her to the hospital. I have stopped at least two ambulance trips in the last year, one for nosebleed and one for vomiting. But I okayed a trip for inability to breathe due to severe anemia, for which she had infusions. This year, I am not going to do that either.