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Spouse with cognitive problems and finances

Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Dec 30, 2022 | Replies (290)
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@IndianaScott

Hi, @billchitwood Your post reminded me again of something with my wife. When it was a very special occasion, she could muster the energy to make it that day. However, the anxiety leading up to it and the exhaustion for the three days following were incredibly tough on her. Our favorite holiday was Thanksgiving and at first, she could make it the day, then half, then an hour, but always surprised me with her ability to make some hidden energy to do it. Not so for Christmas or other days.

With her phone, I did program speed dial for the few numbers she used most, like our kids, my cell, and her best friend. It helped stop the misdials and she could remember I was 1, daughter was 2, etc.

Strength, Courage, & Peace

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Julie Chitwood | @billchitwood | May 28, 2022

Bill fell again - 3 time in less than a month. This time Robin (who just had foot surgery) nor I could get him up and he couldn't get himself up. He kept insisting we pull him up and we couldn't so he would get mad at us. Called 911 and it took 3 physically fit, big guys, to get him on his feet. Then they caught him as he started to fall again. He protested them helping him to bed but fortunately they ignored him and one on each side got him into bed.

At which point, after they left, he started singing to himself. He is asleep now. Robin was reluctant to call 911 as he wasn't injured other than a couple of small scrapes and bruises. She was afraid of taking them away from someone who needed help in a critical situation. We kept trying to get through to the police non-emergency help line but weren't able to (call went in 'push #' in a constant circle.) They would have sent a patrol car to help him up if we could have reached them.

Both Bill and Robin never want to ask for help. I'm a lot more likely too. I think I'm right lol.

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