@sirref
Your wife will need help in cleaning out her drains and bulb for the first few days. My husband was so kind and gentle doing that until I could do it. Also, prior to surgery, figure out where she can bend over at a sink easily and you can wash and rinse her hair. That is a very big treat having hair washed. Taking her out of the house for short walks is also a nice treat getting fresh air. Just be there and let her talk when she wants to and being her best friend is one of the nicest things you can do.