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@colleenyoung

Welcome, @amyabi. You raise a great point that I think might be worthy of a new discussion or adding to these discussions is they suit:
- Time to give up? Mourn and accept new health reality? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/time-to-give-up/
- Acceptance: Anyone have difficulty accepting new limitations daily? https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/acceptance/

Yes, I think talking about grieving the loss of self would be a helpful discussion to start.

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Thank you for your kind words. I wish there was a memoir year long collaboration. I signed up for one… Before and didn’t get to go. It had five week long retreats in some mountains.

My story and our stories are told in books by others. I do know some write a book, but it is always way too upbeat OR they focus on how the hard work is what returned them.

A raw and open to hearing and telling about the journey would have been helpful to me and still would.

So thank you. Grieving the life I spent building and the professional life and educational level and the respect of others in my field is gone.

I don’t like this life. I am taking control more which is shocking to others.

This is a subject I haven’t been able to process so it morphs and changed. It it incredibly irritating to be dismissed as just not being that bad. Everyone forgets things. Everyone has a hard time naming things. Everyone has issues with math.

They say those for themselves.

Apparently in that group I am the only one with a grief issue.

I don’t get how people just count their blessings and feel better.

I don’t throw fits nor am I doom and gloom.

I won’t deny I am a bad copy of a bad copy of my former self. I accept it happened. I will not accept this injury. Since we moved I have so many more therapy options.

So many things I hadn’t even heard existed. I have hope if improvement because I will neur rehab 3 times a week.

This life is not what I thought I was making.

-Be Well

Amy Elizabeth Simpson

The capacity to learn is a gift; The ability to learn is a skill; The
willingness to learn is a choice.
~~Brian Herbert