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Loneliness: Why am I depressed?

Aging Well | Last Active: Feb 27, 2022 | Replies (112)

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@dannybee

I'm so very sorry for your loss. .at least I had finally made it home from the hospital. Maybe Harley waited for me? Not a lot of people understand losing a pet, how hard it is. I just now received Harley's remains from the vet. They included a little clump of hair that I will treasure til the day I die. Also a little blue plaque with his footprint that I don't really recognize.
When I found Harley I was just driving down the street with my daughter. I saw the Pet Shop and had to turn in. I had a dog at home that was already dying, my Maggie May. Sweetest Golden Retriever ever and my little helper. She was the first one to run outside and help bring in the groceries, the one to bring in the paper even if it wasn't ours. And.she had to carry the mail. Those were her jobs. She woke us up in the mornings by jumping on our bed and trying to get under the covers with us. That was exciting, my squealing and laughter and Maggie's snuffling. I was losing her and I knew it but I wasn't in the market for new dog. No dog could ever replace Maggie. But we walked in to the shop and in the back was a small fenced area. I got butterflies in my stomach and I knew they had something over there. I love dogs. So I went over, and the first little guy to come over was Harley. I looked down, he looked up and showed me his beautiful, chocolate brown eyes, and I was reeled in like a trout. I picked him up, he didn't like to be picked up ever. He turned into Superman always. Anyway, he was so soft and beautiful. I took him right home. It was serendipitous that I had the money bc that little one was expensive. Never for one day have I ever regretted getting my boy and bringing him home with me. From that day he was my baby and bff. We did everything together. Now I'm supposed to wait however many years until we can move to someplace with a yard. Well, I've lived with my kids for 8 years and we haven't moved yet. Honestly, at our age we dont know.how much time we have left. I need to fill my arms back up. What would you do Linda?

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The deeper the love, the deeper the grief. I had that same thought when I read ur first blog . . . that Harley waited for you. He needed to know you were safe. My father always had a dog and I have had dogs all my life. My other dogs got old and sick and two had to be helped to cross the rainbow bridge because they were in too much pain. I was prepared and losing a pet when not prepared is very painful. 15 yrs ago we had a dog that had gotten very old and she passed. What I did was volunteered at a no-kill shelter and cared for the dogs as best I could (I suffer from chronic pain.) Sometimes, it would be just washing dog and cat dishes. On good days, I could cuddle with my new friends. After six months, after going to the shelter nearly every day, and I was still grieving my loss, a dog was brought in who had lost her master in a motorcycle accident. His family did not want the dog. Her name was Missy. She was old and I adopted her and she only lived 3 years with us. That is what I would do. I would volunteer at a shelter.