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Loneliness: Why am I depressed?
Aging Well | Last Active: Feb 27, 2022 | Replies (112)Comment receiving replies
I chose to be Myself. Dear Colleen, about a month ago I joined AA in the but of finding hope and strength, what I found instead is a continuous remembrance of my alcoholism, almost to encourage me to continue to be an alcoholic; never did I find a way to break the mold to find a positive solution. I do not want to forget but neither do I want to focus on it on a permanent basis. I have gone online to attend several meetings and NEVER DO I FIND A SOLUTION. In an other matter, people keep telling me that I need to share, when I do, I am told I focus too much on the negative, when I bring up the good points in my personality, I am told that I am bragging too much, I am confused... Today, reading an article on the web, I understand why some people chose to go in isolation, there they/I am at liberty to focus on one thing at a time. I am tired of living; I wish I could find people who would share positive matters, who would feel free to share the good and not be afraid to be who they are.
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Dear @nanette2022. Your post leads me to think that the AA groups you've been in don't "click" with you. You haven't yet located your own home group where you can be yourself and provide support to others while allowing them to provide support to you. When someone tells you that you are too negative or too positive (as in telling you that you are bragging) to me this means they are taking your inventory (4th Step). Is there peer recovery coaching where you are? These are folks with many years of recovery under their belts who have been trained to take on this role and help others. This is meant to be at no cost. to you. At least it is where I live in Michigan. Recovery in depression (that's me) and alcohol (that's my family) is complicated. I hope you will keep at it and find what works best for you. Will you please come back here and keep allow all of us to provide you with support and virtual hugs (((nanette2022))).
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Many people are afraid of negative feelings. I've found that its important to accept that and seek out others who are not as afraid. Support groups can help, because they are all about acceptance.