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Suicide: Finding it hard to lose someone by suicide
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@georgette12 I lost my brother over 30 years ago to suicide. I know that my mother feels guilty as well. However, having been suicidal myself, I understood my brother. I have tried to explain to my mother many times that it was NOT her fault. When you are suicidal, unfortunately the last thing you want to do is speak to anyone. You are absolutely convinced that nothing will ever get better & that everyone would be better off without you. I'm not saying that it's a rational argument, but that is how it feels.
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@kmj1967, it's insightful to hear your experience from all sides, having lost your brother to suicide, feeling suicidal yourself at time and also witnessing your mother's loss and guilt.
I worry about not seeing the signs of a family member who may be pulling away because they feel like nothing will ever get better and that they may be thinking of ending their life. What helps you? What tips would you offer to me to connect with a family member when they seem to be pulling away?
Thank you for sharing. I pray your mother is able to move from guilt to regret at some point. Those two feelings are so very different. I understand that it’s especially hard for parents to do this. We love our children and do what we can for them. As you’ve said, you understand there was nothing anyone could have done after a certain point to keep him from what he convinced himself was his inevitable end. Virtual hugs of comfort sent your way. Again, thank you for sharing your thoughts. ❤️
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We lost our son years ago, (heart breaking big time) and he must similar feelings like your brother as mentioned.
Sorry for your loss, God bless.