@karenmarian2, It is obvious that you are a caring individual who wants the best for your boyfriend. First, I would like to say that he is doing the absolute best thing possible by being seen by his transplant team, taking his meds, and getting routine labs! The required routine labs are used to monitor the level of his immunosuppressant (anti rejection) medicine in his body., and also to show the transplant team about other health concerns like blood sugar/diabetes, iron, thyroid etc levels. Even though he doesn't currently have a PCP, he is being monitored. And I would like to think that his transplant team is giving him advice and directions for keeping the diabetes under control.
Karen, I have been married to my husband for 46 years. He was my caregiver during my transplant. Early on, he drove me crazy with reminding me to
take my meds or checking if I took them. He did it because he cares, but annoying anyway, like he was hovering over me.
Is it possible that your boyfriend feels like you are mothering him or don't trust him about complying with his health requirements?