I am the mother of 3 grown sons. They were all raised in one house, with one mom and one dad.....taken to church every Sunday.....supported in their love of baseball (we spent 19 summers at the little league park).....and still TWO out of the three sons became drug addicts. I spent years crying and praying for them. But nothing worked They lived with us, and stole us blind. We loved and worried about them so much....we couldn't cast them out. (mistake....we should have). One of them finally couldn't take knowing how much of life he was really missing and he went two times to drug treatments (not counting being locked up for a year in a state rehab) but he had to do it HIMSELF. No one can help them except THEMSELVES. My other son is nearly 40.....and he really doesn't try to improve himself. It hurts so very much.
The only advise I can give you and your family is ......if he ever gets in trouble, or ends up in jail....DO NOT help him to get out. While he is there.....maybe he can think about what he is actually doing to his life. I found that it was the only thing that helped my sons. I'm sorry to tell you but......THEY HAVE TO WANT TO BE FREE FROM DRUGS....TO GET FREE!!