@junkartist It's hard when perceptions are what are causing an estrangement. I have relatives who are finally trying to communicate - mother and son - and understand where each is coming from.

I doubt there are many parents who haven't at some point done something they regret but hopefully as the children age, if they remember an incident such as that, they can weigh it against all of the good and caring moments.

I hope in time you will be able to resume a relationship with your estranged son. I think eventually he may regret that tremendously if he does not try to reach an agreement.
JK