My children have accused me of doing negative things upon reading a book about emotional neglect. I know that I did my best, but this weighs on me. I remember many times that I took action or issued directions without talking them through the problem. It's hard to remember the positive things, such as standing up for them against grandparents, teachers; driving them to their activities; organizing activities with their classes, having them live with us as adults, paying for lessons and more. None of this weighs against emotional neglect. The children have partners, good careers, aren't into drugs or alcohol, one has financial challenges, two have houses. I never hit them or berated them. but now one Hasn't talked to me in more than two years. The oldest attacks me verbally and unfortunately, I have reacted with anger and denial. The youngest approached my husband and I with understanding and opened a conversation that was hard, but healing. I am trying to get past the hopelessness of it all and the pain. This is too long. Thanks for listening to me.