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What IS the point? Adult kids don't seem to care.
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Apr 4 9:07pm | Replies (125)Comment receiving replies
Hello. I know what it feels like to be alone. I don’t know how old you are but that may not matter. I am 71. Do you have a hobby? I find it enormously helpful because when I am happy with what I do it gives me a spiritual lift. That can’t help with the loneliness. The family I have nearby has written me off because they have imagined meanness on my part. It would be laughable except that it is painful to be alone. But the truth is that they’re growing up in my family at large with the grief we have all experienced has had a isolating affect on them. They want to shield them selves from any possible disappointment from others. Their wealth also insulates them since they have many opportunities to travel and purchase things for themselves. Whatever the reason is that you cannot find friends where you are planted consider a hobby and also join groups like meet up. There are lots of groups and they all follow certain interests which can help too. If you have relatives that you like or can’t even tolerate you might consider moving closer to them especially if you are older. I have found it is very scary to suddenly get very sick and not have anyone who would help you. Finally if you believe in a higher power or God discussions with that person I think we’re good. After all we can only do so much and we can’t cover all our needs.
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@eczarniecki Your thoughts came through clearly, thank you. And thank you for telling us about what has worked for you. We each have our own experiences, and it is good to share what has been helpful, because we get to see just how many options we have!
What hobbies do you participate in, that lets you connect with others?
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I think a lot of this has to do with covid, being isolated and then when one goes out it’s not the same with masks and staying 6 feet apart you can’t even be social with someone. I am 73 and my husband is 82 and we have no children so I totally understand how you feel. My best friend and family is in the UK and my
Other friend is in New Mexico. I joined the gym before covid and met someone to walk with but even though I am married I still get really lonely at times. I wonder if you have Nextdoor on your computer in your area, it’s a place to ask for someone say to walk in your area or if there ar knitting classes etc. maybe you could join a church if you haven’t, they always seem to help their congregation. I get depressed occasionally which if you knew me before covid you would never have thought it possible. When I feel out of sorts I look around at what I have nice house, gardening, husband and realize how lucky I really am. Good luck and happy 2022
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This is easy again. After posting and then reading my comment I see many errors. I translate my comments for speed but can help often comes out as can’t help. Sorry. I hope you will read the message as encouraging.