About 2 years ago, I was in a similar position with the oldest of my 3 children. She "attacked" me online and I responded with anger. A year ago, things got worse. My youngest adult child read the book, "Emotional Neglect" and passed it on to his siblings The open conversation with him helped and he remained open and affectionate. My middle son jumped into the fray and joined the oldest in not talking to me. He hasn't talked to me in a year.

At first, I was devastated. My world fell apart. Today I am better, but not totally healed and sometimes go back there.

I haven't completed reading a helpful book, "When Parents Hurt" by Joshua Coleman PHD.

I have worn out a few friends, the pastor, and a relative talking about this, but not the therapist or this group.

I have found it helpful to have a crisis plan, including who to call, who to call if it gets worse, and hotlines. Don't forget things that you enjoy doing, such as going to the movies, going on a walk or playing a game. Joining a group to make new friends (stay away from things that will harm you.)

I'm not making light of the immense pain you must feel. I still have a place in my heart that is empty and sad, but I try to turn away from that. I'm not suicidal right now.

Looks like you have a lot of support here. I hope you can continue to feel better.

Cheryl]

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