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Heart pounding since diagnosed with cancer: What can I do?
Cancer: Managing Symptoms | Last Active: May 13, 2023 | Replies (59)Comment receiving replies
Day 5 post mastectomy!
Have been doing quite well physically. Pain has been well managed with Tramadol with acetaminophen. Sleeping has been very good.
I have reduced my pain meds down to 2 a day just fine.
HOWEVER today I am really down, I have no fight in me at all
I know the possible reasons but can't change them.
Bills piled up, income is small senior pension that I can't cover everything with, food is scarce and I really feel like something yummy!
Christmas season is here, people want to visit and don't accept that I don't want company. They all say you need support but visits stress me. I am an introvert and treasure my friends of course, but sometimes I just can't do it.
I just can't see my life getting any better at my age 70!
Today is HARD!
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Days like this are the hardest ones. I hate it when I think of you going through this, mostly because I can remember exactly what these days feel like. Trust me when I say, things will get better, even if it does not seem that way now. Set those medical bills aside for now, this is not the time you should be worrying about those. Tell me what kind of yummy treat sounds good right now? I remember craving a gelato or a cannoli. Are you a cake or cream kind of girl?
@gbnana
Hello @gbnana I noticed I am reading your journey dated December 2021..
Please allow me to say it is normal that it bothers you to be around people, because you need to rest and being surrounded, requires lots of energy and can be exhausting (giving the attention, interacting). Our health changed. Some days are good, other days are ok, or suddenly the side effect of the treatment are hard on us physically and mentally. I lived with many relatives who went thru your stages, where sometimes it is very hard for them. (3 sisters with different type of cancer)
If you try and I am sure you do, to accept that our mental state changes when our health fails us. The people around us, friends even relatives some of them, try to help but instead, inadvertently place a heavy burden on the person going thru health changes. I try to list to them and respect them but do not allow their advice to worry me or make me feel ... am not doing my part. The mind and the body know when is the time to every single thing:, we have to accept that and it is not easy that things are no longer the same. Financial hardship causes more stress and affects us.
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@gbnana Not everyday will be an "up" day. You're allowed to feel the way you do, no matter what others may say. Reach out to a trusted friend and get that yummy treat! You deserve it!.
As a fellow introvert, without the surgical you have gone through [five days ago!] I understand the not wanting to be burdened with putting out energy you need for yourself and healing. Tell those well-meaning people, that dr has ordered you to take it easy, and severely limit your exposure as you recover. They may respect that.
And, life will get better.....
Ginger