Hi @tahuna, welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect, an online community connecting patients.

I can see you care about your friend and are looking for ways to help him. I can't imagine living as a refugee and not having access to good health care that he can trust. Fellow patient members like @dval @mariajean03 @marilyncarkner and others may be able to share ways that they have managed diarrhea, difficulty passing stools and losing control of bowels.

For treatment options used by Mayo Clinic, you may wish to review these articles:
- Ulcerative colitis treatment https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/ulcerative-colitis/diagnosis-treatment/drc-20353331
- Ulcerative colitis flare-ups: 5 tips to manage them https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/ulcerative-colitis/in-depth/ulcerative-colitis-flare-up/art-20120410
- Ulcerative colitis can be debilitating https://newsnetwork.mayoclinic.org/discussion/ulcerative-colitis-can-be-debilitating/

Although ulcerative colitis usually isn't fatal, it's a serious disease that, in some cases, may cause life-threatening complications. I sincerely hope your friend gets the medical attention he needs and deserves.