Hello, @tsc
Thank you for your reply. What you went through getting your husband help must have taken much strength.

I could talk to one family member, but I am concerned that in an effort to help her (and me) she may think I am talking behind her back. Then she may pull away into her anxious quietness even more. I do know I need support and it is my responsibility to get it. She did express concern for a few months but not anymore. She can manage her home and surroundings okay and has many family members who are happy to help with anything she can't do. Sometimes I think I will have to let things unravel until she sees a need for help. I will remember the letter. That is a good idea. Thank you again.