@billchitwood, I am concerned for you and I am sorry to hear that the home health arrangement didn't workout for your husband. Do you know why he no longer qualifies? I would suggest that you learn what he "can" do for himself that does not require a home health nurse, and then make a genuine effort to not take on those things that he can and should be doing for himself. I can tell that you love him very much, and that you want to make his life as pleasant as possible, but at what cost to your own health.

Congratulations on your upcoming Cochlear Implants! I know that this has been on your mind and on your thoughts for a long time. I am happy for you. Will you/What kind of recovery will you need after this procedure?