Hello @justme I sympathize with you. I am a caregiver to my husband who has moderate Alzheimer's Disease. I have health issues myself, but I can still manage his care, and he is quite easygoing at this point. It sounds like your husband is demanding. Have you tried to set some ground rules, like I need to rest for 20 minutes, so please don't call me for anything. Is that possible? I've told my husband not to talk to me when I'm on the phone, but he keeps on forgetting!
I realize that a time may come when I can no longer take care of him and he may have to go to a care home. Is that something you have considered? Also, in our state, Hospice has changed its focus. In addition to caring for those who are terminally ill, hospice now provides aid to those with chronic illnesses. Is there an Office of Aging or similar agency in your area you can explore options with? Wishing you the best and the strength to get through this.