Hi @justme111, welcome to the Caregivers group. I can imagine that you're at the end of your rope and I'm glad that you spoke your mind openly. So often when someone is a patient with intense medical needs like cancer treatment or special diet requirements to manage kidney disease, all the focus in on the patient. So often, the caregiver doesn't get asked how they are doing. It's a job you take on without being asked if you want it.

Am I correct in understanding that you and your husband no longer considered yourselves in a partnership, but that you life under the same roof. So while officially you are no longer obligated to care for him, you feel that you must care for someone in need. Have I got that right? Does he expect you to care for him? Does he want it?