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No one likes to repeat themselves, apparently
Hearing Loss | Last Active: Nov 27, 2023 | Replies (65)Comment receiving replies
@mickey5909
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Repeat what you heard (or misheard) and have them fill in the gaps. That often lead s to laughter.
And yeah, rephrasing throws people off. I generally only do that with family and it’s usually just one or two unfamiliar words.
We always say “sorry” because it IS automatic. Did you ever notice that when you tell people about your hearing loss, they also say “I’m sorry”? Each encounter calls for a different strategy and we are thinking fast. Some encounters are so brief in our daily life it’s just best to smile (kinda of) and move on.
No wonder we are tired at the end of the day. Hearing people have no idea how much we have to plan our day and navigate through these silent waters.
Could be worse.
FL Mary
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As a group, we hard of hearing folks have to understand that our hearing loss affects other people too. The comments on this thread also show that while we are all different, we are also very much the same. When we misunderstand and ask for clarification we are trying to remain in the conversation. When we bluff by nodding and smiling we can get ourselves in big trouble by agreeing to something we totally disagree with. Asking for people to repeat or re phrase often leads to the dreaded "Never mind, it wasn't important' response. That sets us back a pace or two. It's also a put off that makes us feel 'not important'. But, it is a reality with hearing loss, and unless a person has hearing loss themselves, they never completely understand this.
There are ways to help ourselves that only a handful use. I'm thinking of streamers and BlueTooth or direct audio input microphones that we can use in noisy settings. I never leave home without my Mini Mic, a device that can sync with both cochlear implant processors and specific hearing aids. It makes it possible for me to hear when I'm out for dinner, at a party, etc. Is it perfect? No, I still miss some things, but it helps tremendously. That technoology has kept me from becoming reclusive. It has also helped my relationships with family, friends, etc.
Why don't more people use these devices? A couple of reasons: 1. They don't know they exist because hearing healthcare providers don't tell people about these options. 2. they show when they are being used, and many people spend more energy trying to hide their hearing devices than actually trying to hear. 3. They cost money to purchase. Yes, they are add ons. People who sell hearing aids don't want to discuss these things because they are already trying to sell a product that is extremely expensive.
I have learned more about these types of devices from other hard of hearing people than from all the professionals I've seen in the 50 years that I've had hearing loss.
How many people in this discussion are using assistive technology that goes beyond your hearing aids?
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I do the smiling a lot and usually nodding my head. Even when I have no idea what was said. It’s usually those brief passings that this happens to. I do know o dread putting in my “ears” in the morning because that begins the tiresome listening part of my day. My husband hates when I don’t put my ears in right away. But I need those moments of silence.