Hello, @opheli @jugar and @gingerw I'll second the idea of the help Al-Alnon and the AA principles can be for caregiving. I grew up with an alcoholic father and spent a decade and a half as a caregiver for my wife. While it took several 'tries' by my dad for him to find his sobriety, my going through the family part of the program as well as years of Al-Anon were a wonderful help to me. Most of all, for me, the one-day-at-a-time philosophy helped me exist during those years of caregiving. Later some other steps helped my wife in her final months when she also embraced the wisdom of steps such as making amends.

One of the most challenging aspects of caregiving for me was accepting that there were many things I couldn't change, just like my father's alcoholism. I struggled early with accepting the fact family had no interest in helping, friends and family who ghosted on us, and some of the decisions my wife made that I might have made differently. It took me time to understand that there was little to be gained by my trying to make uncaring people care.

Strength, courage, and peace

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