@deek15redpeppers I applaud you for being forthcoming in how you want your marriage addressed. Everyone deserves that same respect, no matter their status, or relationship. In my previous career, I often was in contact with the LGBTQIA community, and one of the first questions I asked was, "How would you prefer to be addressed?" and make notes to the effect on the file so I hoped everyone else would follow the desire of the person. For me, it is a basic respect.
Ginger