I am new to Mayo Connect and was just browsing when I found this topic from a couple years ago. Now I can't help adding my 2 bits worth. I am a married lesbian and have found NO disrespect in the healthcare system I use! But I wish people would NOT refer to my spouse as a "wife"! I was a "wife" in a bad heterosexual marriage, so the term leaves a bad taste in my mouth. PLease, everyone use "spouse" or "partner". Thanks!