Previous doctor in KY had him do PT but he refused to keep it up. He does a few push offs off the counter and some arm stretches. He said he almost pasted out in the shower this morning. We do have a shower bench and handheld shower he could use but won't. He weighs over 180 lbs and - when standing erect, which he doesn't anymore, is 6'1" - I'm 5/3' and about 110 lbs and have a bone density problem - also age 80 - so I couldn't balance him well or get him up if he fell. He scared himself this morning and jokingly said he is giving up showers. Sometimes his smell is overwhelming and I have almost no sense of smell. He also is suffering from incontenance at various times. I've suggested a chair but he is against it. At this point he has so many health issues - and many he has had for years so even though they match CKD symptoms I'm not sure which they are related to. He is reluctant to mention anything to his doctor as he only want palative care at this point. His stress med keeps him happy for the most part and he is quite content just being at home with me and our kitty (who comes and gets me if he has a problem - a guard kitty).

I don't know if he would qualify for Medicare home health care, which he would probably protest. Feel so helpless in helping him. If you met him you wouldn't think anything was wrong - which is what he imparts to the doctor and his staff.

It helps just being able to talk to someone! Our kids say they want to know how he is doing but they really don't as it is upsetting. When they visit he puts on a good act. Although our one granddaughter noticed the last time she was here that he couldn't remember her sister's name, which completely surprised her.