I understand what you’re saying. You are willing to live with his debilitating health issues but you don’t want to be pushed away or be in a loveless marriage. You are hurt and feel rejected from him distancing himself from you.

Men put to much stock on their lower head and can become very cold and indifferent when they cannot perform. When there’s no touching, cuddling and communication the marriage is built on a few minutes of pleasure and that is sadness especially when aging and sickness comes.

My husband always told me love must get past the bedroom. Aging train will not stop and sickness impacts the old and young. We’ve been married 32 years and dated beforehand 8 throughout our college years.

He was my first lover and I am from the old school thinking when he deflowered me he married me so I say we been married 40 years.

As we have aged we both have seen differences in our sex life. We joke about it and accept that the desire is there but sometimes the erection isn’t or vaginal lubrication isn’t there. At those times we look into each other’s eyes and say thank you lord we love each other past the bedroom.

When the desire is there but the body doesn’t cooperate (We) get out the bed and I fix an appetizer, he put on old school music and pop open a bottle of wine and we love, live and laugh. Play bingo or watch movies.

We live by his saying over the years,“Love must get past the bedroom.” It has been an aging and sickness game changer. But our faith in God is the glue that keeps us together in everything we face as we grow old together. Bless his name!

Talk to your husband and tell him how he’s making you feel. Don’t keep that inside as stress brings about disease and you need not get sick over his rejection.

Prayed to God on y’all behalf. Blessings and hugs to you dear heart ❤️