I'm a male retired nurse and we have similar issues that are not uncommon due to illness, age or meds. So finding a work around is important. Most women as they age develop vaginal atrophy, which is part of the normal aging process as the walls of the vagina thin with age intercourse becomes painful. Thankfully at 69 I'm still functioning normally but my partner does not for the reasons I just mentioned. What men as a whole don't understand is that you don't need to have penile intercourse to please a women. What women need to do is communicate with their significant other what they want and need. Pleasing a women is an art and women need to teach their preferred techniques to their men. Their are tons of helpful video's on YouTube on this subject to get you started. The women on the other hand needs to still please their man (since intercourse isn't happening) and I will stop there without any further explanation. Maybe it's time to learn some new tricks and spice up bedroom?