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Sexless Marriage (when one partner is ill)

Men's Health | Last Active: Dec 15 11:01am | Replies (196)
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@anet

Dana, I can also understand where your wife is coming from because at one time I had the same problem with uncomfortable sex. The difference being that I found a solution. I went to two doctors, but both only gave me estrogen creams, etc. which did very little to help. One day I just happened to come across an article in a magazine about exactly what was going on with me. It suggested using a set of vaginal dilators which started off small and gradually increased in size. I showed the article to my doctor, I am wondering why doctors don’t recommend it. I ordered them and I have to say at first it was painful, but it worked and before long things were really good until he had the heart problems and got on all the medications. Your wife may not be interested but others may be. I may check in the women’s health section and see if anyone is. Meanwhile I am just focusing on my other interests and keeping us safe. Hope you are too.

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Dana, Volunteer Mentor | @danab | Apr 30, 2021

@anet Yes We did discuss all those options and I'm pretty ok with other forms of intimacies and actually enjoy some aspects outside intercourse. Now She also finds that form of release to intense and preferred only traditional methods.
So depending on your own tastes oral forms of enjoyment can be i think better for both partners.
I will also add that I was concerned at first when my Heart was giving me issues often with Arrhythmias I got worried that the act of arousal would cause a shock from my pacemaker. I believe even tho I don't have that anymore that the fear in her mind is also a factor. She saw me deal with shocks many times and I can understand its a scary thing to watch
Is it possible that the arousal period gets you Husband concerned that it will be a medical episode? This may cause an ED issue I have heard.
Good Luck and its been about 6 years now and I've kind of got used to the Idea of just enjoying the companionship. I now look to the Lord for what he has planned for my life going forward.

Thanks @colleenyoung I thing its also an age issue too. She is in her 70's and even tho I don't feel this way she feels Her youth has left her and older people just don't do that anymore. I've always wondered and I've heard it many times that quite a few women I think particularly in the older generation see Love Making as something for the young only.
Blessings
Dana

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