Yes, the recomendation “to see a Sex Counselor” is one answer and a good one. I happen to be the Husband and the deficient Partner in my marriage. I have a Pyreonies condition and intercourse is hurting my wife so we avoid it with my wife saying that it isn’t critical and that all the other elements of our marriage are intact and failure in the bedroom is just “a little thing”. That gets me off the hook but my Urologist keeps suggesting that I see with my wife, a sex counselor or that I go the route of “Surgery”. If I believed that surgery would leave some libido for me….I might consider surgery. The question remaining is which “way” should I go? Thanks for all that has been said because the various experiences and suggestions have been helpful. Glenn