I did it. I told her what it was like and what happened and I kept it about me only. I emailed her because she is so very good at throwing blame around and I am terrible about stalling out when that happens. I was blamed for so long and I didn't know everything she was told. Her youngest now deceased brother would say horrible things that his dad told him, like I was practicing witchcraft and they might have to go to foster care. He was only 10 at the time of divorce. It was awful. I told her those things as well. Her comment to the email was simply, "I love you." That's OK. I feel so much better for having given her the truth.