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PTSD from violence by the man I used to live with
Mental Health | Last Active: Dec 9, 2011 | Replies (4)Comment receiving replies
First, if you haven't changed the locks on the house, do so asap. If you haven't done any of these things, please consider: Please go talk to the police, an attorney, a psychologist and your family and close friends. You need protection from this individual. You can press charges, you can get a restraining order through the court to keep him away from you and you can make others aware of the death threat. If he broke your finger, you obviously have medical evidence that can support a charge of domestic violence against this man. Don't just sit around waiting for things to change, take action and get to a psychiatrist, m.d. that can also diagnose you, if you haven't already. The PTSD is real and it needs to be dealt with, you are a precious person that has been traumatized by someone with real problems. YOU need to take care of yourself and protect yourself asap. Don't waste any time, take off work or whatever you need to do to make this a priority. I pray you will be well soon.
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Make sure that you confide in friends so that they can help you stay safe and focused on a future without this man. Was substance abuse involved? It's not a reason for people to act that way, but it sometimes reveals the anger the perpetrator is harboring. I agree about changing locks, etc. Keep in mind that this person will always be a danger to you, even months or years later. I don't know what goes on with these nuts, but I have been in your shoes. Try to see if you can recognize early signs of this man's behavior. Make sure you don't find another person with the same traits. I had that problem. The men were noting alike in appearance and manner, but the freak was still hiding within, I used to think it was my fault somehow, as it kept repeating itself. I finally discovered that it was someting that I was subconsciously looking for - not the anger, but whatever it is that those idiots all had in common. My parents had a violent relationship when I was growing up. My mom was bipolar and committed suicide on her 40th birithday in 1980. I was 21 at the time. The violence that I endured from men in my relationships during those years (80's) occurred while my mother was still living, and shortly thereafter. I no longer tolerate physical abuse - just the occasional PITA husband stuff. My kids are happy young adults. ps- I suffer from depression but treat it successfully with Prozac and the fellowship of AA