Being Married, loving your spouse, and desiring to have a sexual relationship with them is an important part of marriage, in my opinion. Sex, making love, the power of touch is vital to physical and emotional health, and your marriage. If I were in your situation I think it would make a difference if my spouse is not able to have sex for health reasons, but still expressed love and tenderness with words, cuddling, and closeness I would try to feel fullfilled knowing they were showing me love in every way they could. If they could not have sex, therefore did not want to show me any affection I would feel rejected, unloved, unfulfilled and distant. Making Love includes a lot more than having intercourse. It is tenderness in word and touch, compassion, and a whole realm of closeness. If you and your spouse cannot talk openly and honestly about the subject, then preferably you need to find a counselor you both have confidence in to help you come to an understanding. Let me encourage you very strongly to do whatever is possible to come to a solution you are both happy with, the sooner the better.