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Hi, @jo54 - I have never personally lost a baby, but I can only imagine the pain and heartache it would cause, whether it was a miscarriage or a baby who died after birth. It would be tragic.
I'd also like to invite @sandytoes14 @karihammel @liyana @phoenixzip @lupusjourney @moables011 @peggyella @java_mom @roxy1992 @artscaping @vthatch @amh9999 into this conversation on coping with miscarriage, as you've mentioned on Connect the loss of a baby, through miscarriage or otherwise, or that someone close to you had this experience. You are under no obligation to share, but hoping you might have some thoughts on ways to cope.
@jo54 - you mentioned exercise as a help in a time of loss of a baby. Any other ideas on how to make it through when you've had a miscarriage or early loss of a baby?
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When it’s time put away or donate any baby items you gathered for your baby. Don’t be afraid to talk about your feelings. Work or volunteer to help others. Give someone a blessing. Keep us posted as to how you are doing. We care and know it’s not easy but you will overcome. God bless you. Jo54
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Good morning @mandyg, @lisalucier, I think I can write about this tragedy in my life. I try to tuck away the sadness. Years ago, I was rear-ended on an off-ramp in Pittsburg. The result was that I went into labor. At that time, doctors used morphine to calm things down. It helped me but also suppressed my son's lungs and he died 3 days later.
Also at that time, the belief was that no one could talk to you about your loss. My family was told to not let me go to the ceremony or burial. I had to stay home by myself. That was also the time when many friends and colleagues were told to emphasize that I should remember I already had a 3-year-old daughter. I should be grateful.
That didn't work either. Grief is difficult when the world says you shouldn't be grieving. Please be careful that you seek help if you are not sleeping even if it means you need to admit yourself for psychiatric care.
My grandchildren have filled the emptiness and my life partner has validated the sadness that sometimes just comes.
So what was the best therapy for me? My life partner's son lost his mother in a car accident the day he came home from deployment in the Gulf war. He and I have developed a close bond, he for his mother and me for my son. May you find happiness and joy. Chris