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@scrappie08

MMSTUMP Hi, I want to say I am so sorry for this in your life! You never expect to lose your best friend in life. My spouse does not have these issues, it is my best friend . We have been best friends since we were 12 years old. It is so hard. I will never leave her side but... it is so hard. The temper, anger, jealousy of everything I do or have. Being inappropriate everywhere we go! Her whole personality is not the best friend I once had. Most of the time it is like I do not have a best friend any longer because it is all about her. She has been Bipolar for years but now with PTSD and her doc says she is developing a personality disorder and needs to get things under control before it is too late. It is too late! And the guilt we feel because sometimes we really want to freak out on them right back! But we know it is not appropriate. I could go on and on. I know it is hard. And it hurts! I am just joining some of the groups on here and I hope you can get some good advise and I hope I can get some also. The one thing I will say... I tell myself this all the time. Could you imagine feeling the way they do and living that life everyday!? They don't want to either. 🙁

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Hi, @scrappie08 - welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect. I can't imagine having your spouse and best friend change into a completely different personality with temper, anger, jealousy and acting inappropriately. Sounds like while you are hurting and having challenges with living with a spouse who is exhibiting these behaviors so far from what she used to be, you are also trying hard to stand in her shoes and look at her experience with bipolar, PTSD and now a personality disorder from her perspective.

I'd like to introduce you to @amberpep, who has talked about bipolar, as well as @parus @gingerw @beckysn @mblbirch. Hoping they can identify with some of what you and your wife are experiencing and also provide some support to you and any input they have to offer.

Why are you feeling it's too late to try and get things under control, as the doctor mentioned? Are her current medications helping at all with the symptoms she has?