@katehedderich You’ve asked a very good question that no one ever wants to ask. And doctors don’t want to bring up the subject even though it would sure help if they did. I found this article for you that may answer some of your questions or give you some information. If you Google ‘intimacy and cancer’ you will find many reputable resources. Maybe print out some articles and just leave them lying around.
I hope what @1nan and I have suggested will help some. Please stay in touch with us. Becky https://www.cancercenter.com/integrative-care/intimacy-relationship-challenges