@loula- Good afternoon. My answer to you is that most things concerned with cancer are scary. My suggestion to you, my friend, is to stop listening to people's stories. People don't think when they divulge bad news to someone in the same boat. Everyone is different. If you were, for example, to have the same protocol as your friend, I bet you would have an entirely different response.

I ask people not to tell me stories. People can also say the silliest things too. But the most important thing is to just do your best. No one can plan how they will respond to these chemicals. Some people lose their hair, some don't. I didn't with chemo.

As cancer patients, we have to buffer ourselves from harmful and stressful things so that all of our energies are centered on getting better. I had to stop a relative from even visiting me because she was just too stressed, and I banned her from the hospital.

I stayed away from junk on the computer. My life and cancer were scary enough. Does this make sense?