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He's 83 and not sick. I'm 61 and we have nothing in common but our Catholic faith. We have never laughed together. I'm craving physical affection and we've both seen many therapists. Just when I try to look @ the positives we fight again. Thanks for caring Frank. No change is in sight because he gets angry when I mention his prior porn addiction. We are alone for the Holidays which makes matters worse. I try to reach out to siblings but they say be happy you have a friend. Maria.
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Hi, Here in Indiana we have case workers and a mental health Philicity called Lifespring.Thats where I was going until this pandemic hit and now I talk to my people over the phone. If you need section 8 housing to be able to afford your own place to live. Reach out and get the number for a program like it in your community. Get a legal aid lawyer and get a divorce. Best thing I ever did.Of course i have a"Residual disability because of all the abuse I had to tolerate and endure. Its been 23 years since the big D took place and Im like a new person. I have to take medication to keep me stable and as normal as what normal is these days.They dont interfear with my freedom i jus have to rest alot and move slower then I use to bc of dizziesness when I stand up or lay down.ok I hope it helps/ take care. marcie
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Maria, the holidays can be especially difficult for many of us. It's certainly hardest for a person who is alone. Even though you and Jim share the same household your relationship is such that you feel effectively alone. I'm not sure if it would help you at all but I just want you to know that if you would like to reach out to someone in a less public way, you can always feel free to send me a private message. I can at least offer you my ears to listen. Please feel free to write to me whenever you feel the need and I guarantee I will listen and respond. Everyone should have someone they can talk to. Best to you, Hank
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@mariajean03 It's hard when you open up to your siblings and they tell you to be happy with what you have. That is incredibly invalidating and I'm sure that you feel even more alone in those moments.
You are in a tough spot. It doesn't sound like you have anyone that is a consistent emotional support. I don't fully know your situation but your participating in Mayo Clinic Connect is likely incredibly beneficial to your well-being. I encourage you to keep reading, posting, and responding. I also encourage you to find creatively ways to attempt to have your needs met with the resources that you have, which I know are extremely limited.
The holidays can be hard, especially with COVID-19. I personally love to watch old Christmas movies like, "It's a Wonderful Life" and read, "A Christmas Carol." Do you have any happy holiday traditions you can do alone? Can you bake cookies and send to loved ones?
You mentioned that you would be alone for the holidays, I'm wondering if you will be able to video chat with friends/family?