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Isolation as diagnosis

Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Nov 3, 2020 | Replies (32)

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@trish70

Hello... I’ve always had trouble finding and keeping friends. I’ve never had a group of friends. Still today I’m 50 years old, and only have one friend. We usually text once a day, but lately we’ve been going a few days between checking in with each other. We live about 45 minutes from each other. So we don’t see each other very often.
I’m on disability and have several serious medical issues (Severe scoliosis, type 1 diabetic, major depression, ADD, sleep issues, restless legs, chronic pain and others) and had to move in with my mom after my husband of 24 years left me. I don’t feel at home with my mom. All my stuff is in a storage unit that I can’t afford. I’m very very sad, lonely and depressed. Always. I no longer find joy in the things I used to like doing, like making beaded jewelry. I’m always wishing I was no longer here. That I’m no longer a burden to anyone. I’m so tired of being alone. This is the first time I’ve ever been alone. My diet is very poor, because I never want to cook for just me.
All I’ve ever wanted was for people to like me... and yet, here I am alone and very, very lonely.

Thank-You to everyone who takes a moment out of their day to read this.

- Trish

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Replies to "Hello... I’ve always had trouble finding and keeping friends. I’ve never had a group of friends...."

@trish70 It sounds like you have numerous health and mental health concerns. My condolences on your marriage ending. That must be extremely difficult.

You feel isolated and alone but you have reached out to peers on Mayo Clinic Connect. You want to be connected and widen your social circle.

May I ask what kind of formal supports you have? I'm wondering if you attend one-on-one and/or group therapy, have an adult mental health case manager, or a social worker that coordinates your medical appointments, etc.?

@trish70
Trish, one additional point for you would be to explore some of the other groups/discussions on the Mayo Connect forum.
There are groups on issues you have mentioned having yourself, such as:

sleep issues: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/sleep-health/
diabetes: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/diabetes-and-endocrine-problems/
spine health: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/spine-health/
chronic pain: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/group/pain/
and others.

You might find others in some of the discussions there who might be able to share their issues with you and how they are dealing with them. I have found that being a Connect member since January I have made several friends who have become as close as many "real" friends I have made in the past. In fact I have shared more with some people here than I have with most of the people in my own family! Hank