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Feel like my issues are so minor to others

Lung Cancer | Last Active: Aug 31, 2020 | Replies (14)

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@merpreb

@alamogal635- Good morning. I am so glad that you have reached out to Connect with this subject. When I made my first trip to the grocery store after my first cancer. I knew 3 ladies who wound up in the check-out line in front of me. They all had had breast cancer and had had chemo. I felt inferior because I hadn't needed chemo. For some strange reason, back then, I felt that without chemo my cancer wasn't important enough, or bad enough, like a mini-cancer, a subordinate in relation to all other cancers. It wasn't until after my 2nd cancer when I did have chemo, that I knew that I had been way wrong in my thinking. I was comparing myself to others thereby diminishing my worth.

How can having lung cancer be minor? Having to look over our shoulders is the bane and badge of courage after a diagnosis of Cancer. The Big C! After all the years since my first cancer, coming on 23 yrs in October, I might need to move more of my body looking over my shoulder, but I still do it.

I have had a horrible time with COVID-19 and my lung cancer. Every feeling seems exaggerated and huge. I don't know how life will look like if we get a handle on this virus or a good vaccine, but I do know that we can adapt and feel more in power as time goes by. About two weeks before my CT follow-up I begin to get very anxious with Scanxiety. You might be feeling this now. This is also another badge of courage for us. Grounding at this time is important. See if you can make a plan too about what you will need to do if you need another treatment or what you will do to celebrate.

I am so happy that you are back. I found that it takes years to learn to live with cancer and it's always an adjustment. How are you doing this now that is different than a couple of years ago?

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@merpreb Gosh, it's good to hear from you again. You nailed it--since mine was caught early, no chemo, etc., I'm not as entitled to reach out to others, but they are. each of us IS unique. I like the way you call it scanxiety. I feel empowered just thinking that this is a badge of courage. YOu certainly have had more than your share since for you it all started 23 years ago. You certainly set a fine example for those of us relatively new to being diagnosed with Cancer. I must say that since the stark fear, numbness, and dread when first diagnosed, I've learned so much more from the site and from working with my own fears, apprehension, etc. It is an on-going learning experience and as you say adjustment. Just getting back in touch with all of you--almost said y'all--has helped. I am less concerned. I plan on getting out of the house more than going through the drive-through at Walgreens to pick up prescriptions. Now I'll wear a mask, go inside, and look at cosmetics and I love looking at the as seen on TV items in that store. A big load has been lifted from me once I got up the courage to return to this forum and reach out for help from others. So already things are different in a better way. It doesn't remove the CT scan and its anxiety, but the dread is much lessened. I'm not fixated on the event and follow-up with my oncologist as I was before. WIll continue to work on living in the NOW rather than anticipating what has not come about as of yet. Also will be more active here. So glad I found this support group and the other on the Mayo Clinic site. Thank you!!!!!!