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Feel like my issues are so minor to others

Lung Cancer | Last Active: Aug 31, 2020 | Replies (14)

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@cindylb

Dear @alamogal635 First, let me say that your anxiety and situation are not 'minor' compared to someone else. They are just different. Never be hesitant to reach out on this site for support or vent or be happy or whatever. This Mayo site has really helped me and my health concerns might even seem trivial to some but everyone has reached out and I was able to share. What a blessing that is. I am NOT a positive person (ha ha). I'm not optimistic and I'm not easy going. I admire you for being that way. I never lose 'hope' but I whine the whole time I'm getting to hope. I am a breast cancer survivor. It will be five years this November and seven years since I first started the battle with cancer. Every time I have an appointment with oncology or a scan or a blood test I wonder if I'll get bad news. I think it's part of the awful process. I think it's common. Because cancer is still such an elusive disease, because so much is yet unknown, I think there will always be some fear when we come up on the next test or time frame. We can't control cancer. We can do our research, take care of ourselves and look for the best medical care and once we've done that, we have to take a deep breath, live in the moment and distract ourselves with the happiest possible thoughts and activities. Don't get me wrong, I'd like to control cancer, ha ha.........About a million years ago, when I was young, I suffered from panic attacks. I didn't even know they were a thing. I thought I was losing my mind and found a truly gifted psychiatrist who was studying panic disorders (they weren't really talked about much back then). He used to make up these funny stories about my 'fears'. At first I thought he was cruel to do this and then I realized that he was trying to show me how looking at 'a thing' from a different perspective could help me feel calmer and less afraid. I still use what I learned today. It's not easy but if you can face the fear and not give it any more power over you and turn it into something less dark and scary - it won't have as much power to make you sad in the moment. We've got your back out here. Here's hoping you have the best possible news. Hugs.

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@cindylb Bless you! Just needed to hear exactly what you wrote! A long while back, I worked with an excellent psychologist who always told me to face the fear and go through it. He said, "damned the torpedoes full speed ahead." It is much the same as your psychiatrist taught you, I think. I just need to practice it! I would like to take all the kinds of cancer throw them all in a burlap bag weighted down with concrete and drop it in the deepest part of the Indian Ocean! Congratulations on being cancer-free! Happy for you. You've fought a longer battle than I and obviously have courage. You may not think you are an optimist, but your post sure comes across that way. I also think being so isolated at home--doctor's orders during the Covid-19 mess finally has taken its toll on my trying to stay sane. When we could go out, do things to take our minds off things, I know I was much better at this. I was fine in semi-isolation until recently. Anyway, I thank you for writing back and will NOT be shy regarding writing on this site and on others. Reaching out here and being answered by others is a help in times such as these. Thank you so much for writing and for your support. Sending you hugs right back!