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Looking to talk with someone caring for a non-blood relative
Caregivers | Last Active: Sep 5, 2020 | Replies (16)Comment receiving replies
@fourof5zs I am so sorry to hear about your mother. It certainly took a lot of courage and strength to get on to Connect and add to the advice! But, you’re right, your mother lived with you so the doctors felt legally safe talking to you Your brother probably had a legal POA and what’s needed to talk about healthcare decisions, is a Medical Durable Power of Attorney. This says that you have discussed everything and are speaking for your mother.
I wish you the best and hope that you will take some time for yourself. Becky
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@becsbuddy
Becky, this site actually helps me. I am still tired and it shows in my typos 😄. My husband and I are putting away the medical equipment and deciding what to do with some of Mama's possessions that are at our home. We are doing a little at a time. Taking time to breath. My mom was his second mom.. as his parents were my second second set of parents. My husband loved mama as much as I did and he has cried with me.
We were allowed to take Mama's dog to the funeral home for a visit. He did not respond to the site of her or her name and has not responded to hearing “Mama” since we visited. He seems to understand that she will not be coming home. Ziggy is a mini poodle and will be 10 years old in a few weeks. .. acts like he is 3. A couple of weeks ago I caught my husband telling Ziggy he loves him. Both are loved by me.
@buckyc71
Becky, I do wish I had more suggestions for the question here, but I don't. Just sitting down and having a good talk is the best thing. You may need to write your questions and answers down. My memory is about shot, so I need notes. I set the alarm on my phone so I would remember when to give Mama her medicines... also to remind me of doctor appointments. On my ipad I could set it to remind me of appointments a day before and hours before.. so double reminding at times. Please keep us updated with his progress and ask any question you wish. I and others will try to answer the best we can.
Zee Gee