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How to have relationships while living with depression?
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Sep 16, 2021 | Replies (104)Comment receiving replies
Thank you for your reply. My husband tried going to an individual therapist who gave him strategies, met once more and felt it was all silly and useless to keep a journal or follow a weekly plan. He used to enjoy hinting and dud model trains as a hobby. He just gave all his guns to his son and gave up hobby years He has a psychiatrist who just asks how the meds are, suggests alternate ones to try, prescribed and checks in once every couple months .He is useless. In our area absolutely no one is accepting new patients. We have our church but fellowshipping is minimL due to Covid. All his peers who he called close friends are moved or passed away. We live in the country with no near neighbors and our church friends are almost 1 hr away. No one drives out here to visit. Our son is also over an hr away, who wants to help, but my husband won't discuss any of this with him (he is mortified- I have shared my heartache and what is happening with family, but I can't keep burdening them) and our son has a young family, busy with his own life. When we do see them it is usually with a group or special days like this last Father's day, so we do not mar the occasion with depression talk. My husband just tries really hard to not be a sad downer but he also is pretty silent whole time in a get together. No, I truly am alone in helping him.
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@grandmaraines Your husband is blessed to have you in his corner. In reading your posts, it sounds like he is also concerned and would like to understand what to do to ease his burden. To me, that right there is a sign he understands the seriousness and long term effects of this issue. I am glad to hear he gifted his son with the firearms.
Do you have a way to check in with a teaching hospital in your area, and get some answers? SAMHSA [Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration https://www.samhsa.gov/find-help/national-helpline may give you some guidance. Also there is the Anxiety and Depression Association of America https://adaa.org/ that might help.
Will you let me know if either one of these help you and your husband?
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Hi my name is dave and for some reason unknown to me I kept this post. It's been almost a year since it was posted and I'm wondering how both of you are doing? Yes this covid is stopping people from getting together and I know it's hard and I believe you are away from neighbors where you live. But something struck me reading this post again which was your husband gave his guns away and the trains. So let me tell you what I think, the guns dont get used by your husband so give them to your sons for their use and enjoyment. Might give them something to talk about I'd your kids use them. Same thing with his train sets but what I wanted to tell you is that by giving these items away it will open up room for your husband to find a new hobby or something else he might enjoy. I hope all is well dave
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@grandmaraines I live in a rural area and good therapists or psychiatrist are in great demand and short supply. This Mayo Connect has been so helpful for me and people are very nice. There is a chat under Depression/Anxiety that you both might find helpful. Would like to stay in touch if okay with you. Sending blessings.