If you have the need for a kidney in the future you're automatically put to the top of the kidney transplant list. One question the social worker asked me is how I would feel if my husband or one of my children needed a kidney in the future and I didn't have a kidney to give. My answer was that I was meant to be their advocate and caregiver then but it did make me stop and think for quite a while. The other question the social worker asked me that really made me think was what if the recipient of my kidney doesn't follow care guidance and basically doesn't take care of my gift how I would feel. It made me think a lot. My response was I would most likely grieve a bit but ultimately what I gave as a gift is not mine anymore and the person is entitled to not take care of my gift if that's what they choose. There were many questions my team brought to light but those were the two that really made me stop and think for quite a bit. My social worker called and talked to my husband since I had him listed as my caregiver. It's important that whomever you list as your caregiver gets their questions answered.