@gingerw, Ginger, I cannot thank you enough for your speedy and so helpful response. I googled the POLST and then a site listed for the form accepted in Texas. It is called: Medical Orders for Scope of Treatment (MOST). I have printed out a copy to take to my friend, Fred's house and also the same form for both TX and CO to add to my End of Life File for daughter. The website that lists state-by-state POLST documents is: https://www.everplans.com/articles/state-by-state-polst-forms .

I, too, have done the 5 Wishes and included it in the file above. However, my estate atty. said it was questionable about its being a success if legally challenged in TX. At least it can be supportive to the other legal documents drawn up.

Thank you, @lioness, for your warm and comforting posts as well, Linda. The comforting words mean so much because I only feel safe sharing my concerns and some of my feelings with my daughter and friend's cousin. Too often we have all experienced well intentioned words from others meant to comfort but can lead to more distress. This is too deeply personal and I'm feeling far too vulnerable to take that risk.

My one advice to All, especially during this troubling time of the COVID virus is to take the time, make the effort Now to put your financial security and end-of-life wishes, Durable POA, Living Will, Will, and other emergency instructions in order legally and officially with notarized copies to those in charge so that in an emergency, your medical, financial, and family teams can clearly know and implement your desires.

At the time my friend and her guy made out their wills and medical POA's they had no clue that their lives could later be so destructively impacted by a very mentally unstable, irrational daughter. The current atty failed them dismally and we now fear that it may be too late to even change the medical living will instructions. If so, the daughter could probably prevent access by our guy and instate herself as the only in-hospital family caregiver.