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What does it take to moving from low self-esteem - to self acceptance
Depression & Anxiety | Last Active: Jul 31, 2020 | Replies (62)Comment receiving replies
@0616 An interesting question. I wonder who might have some thoughts about how when we are snubbed by someone it has an effect that might seem out of proportion to the slight itself?
@ginger, @parus, @georgette12, @becsbuddy
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It seems to me we are putting an expectation on the individual to affirm and validate us and they may not have it in them t meet that need, when we come in neediness other sense that and usually know it is a need they cannot be meet, so the result is to turn away, rejection to protect self. Then we take that rejection personally and it hurts. We need t find healthy ways to get our needs met, for me it's a spiritual path.
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@hopeful33250 It is an interesting question! While a part of me wants to reason that the other person didn't hear because their mind was elsewhere, a bigger part of me usually feels that I must not be of high enough value to that person, to deserve a response. I try to " shake it off" and sometimes that works. But if it is a day where I am struggling myself, and it took effort for me to step out and say something, to be shot down does nothing for my self-esteem that day [and sometimes for several more!] Then days may follow that I retreat in order to not make myself vulnerable again.
Does that make sense?
Ginger