@contentandwell, Be assured that any and all I’ve done for my friend and her guy has been at their request and with their gratitude. While this is certainly a complex time in our lives, for those in my friend’s orbit, it is primarily a heart rending one of concern, apprehension and continuing prayers that she be as pain free as possible.

My sincerest thanks for your kind support and good wishes @lioness, @ginger and @ Indiana Scott.

Scott, I was troubled that home health care but not Hospice was provided when my friend returned home from hospital. Daughter said that she was told by oncologist that as long as my friend was receiving infusions, Hospice was not available. Not sure how many more treatments are prescribed but can suggest hubby ask oncologist about Hospice now.
Years ago, both my mom and sister, once diag. with Stage 4 cancer went immediately on Hospice. Neither of them, however, pursued additional chemo/radiation etc. so maybe that made the difference? You are so right. The degree of additional care and support Hospice provided both them and me made an incredible positive difference for us all.

ContentandWell, My friend’s guy (don’t know how to refer to him; not married but tog. over20 yrs and “partner” connotes a gay relationship to me) had kidney stone surgery in 2002. When he tried to get appt. with same pcp who was his and is my friend’s this go round with kidney, was told not accepting new patients. He did go to hospital ER. Sent home with pain meds and hope that stone will pass; if not, he was given a doc referral while at the ER. While he will do everything in his power to take the very best care possible of my friend, he hadn’t seen a doc since 2002. Efforts by my friend to get him to establish a new pcp fell on deaf ears. Maybe now. Is this reluctance a guy thing??? Vbg

As for my neighbor’s Apple watch not signaling her fall, her niece bought it for her 3-4 months ago so would hope it was the latest model. Maybe it was defective or needed some special set up to be activated? She’s not comfortable yet to have it checked out at Apple store.

@lioness, Thank you so much for this information! Had not heard of VIAL of Life. Site for Free Print Out for EMS : http://vialalife.com/

@gingerw, Yes! After a stroke, 3 yrs ago and before carotid surgery, I updated legal docs and medical directives and created a comprehensive binder which included, doc, med, ins, investment, local service providers like plumber/ electrician, utilities, vet and other with contact info, account #’s, etc. Kept one and sent the other to out-of-state daughter. It needs to be updated because of provider retirements and need for additions. Thank you for providing this timely reminder for me to update that.

I have DNR but with Covid, I’m rethinking whether I want to make that handy for EMS…Shoot,I might be one of the very lucky ones if I became infected. Smiles I don’t have a smart phone but do carry a list of meds, doc contact info, along with local friends/neighbors and daughter contact and who has house keys. I also subscribe to a medical alert sys. whch has immediate contact names and numbers.

@artscaping, I love the pic of this baby and also the wonderful story of Jay’s help in reviving it and others. Is Jay a son? Grandson? Maybe he is a bird whisperer??? So nice!